Love can sometimes cloud our judgment, making us overlook important signs in our relationships. One surprising revelation may be that your boyfriend is more interested in your money than in you. Yes, men can be gold diggers too.

So, how can you tell if your boyfriend is with you for love or for your wealth? Here are some red flags that could indicate he’s more interested in your bank account than your heart:

1. He’s overly focused on your finances.
From the start, if he seems more interested in your salary, your car, or your home than your interests or ambitions, it’s a warning sign. An intense focus on your financial status over your personal connection is a clear red flag.

2. Lavish lifestyle, but no funds to match.
Does he constantly want to live the high life—designer clothes, fancy restaurants, and extravagant experiences—but always seems to “forget” his wallet when it’s time to pay? If you’re constantly covering the cost for his expensive tastes, it’s time to take a step back.

3. Avoids conversations about financial independence.
A strong relationship involves planning for the future together, including financial stability. If he avoids or becomes uncomfortable when talking about finances or independence, it may indicate that he isn’t looking for a partnership based on equality.

4. Perpetual financial crises.
If he’s always “in a financial bind” and regularly relies on you to bail him out, it’s a red flag. While everyone goes through tough times, a pattern of constant crises suggests he may be taking advantage of your generosity.

5. Your friends and family are concerned.
Sometimes, those closest to us can see things we might miss. If your friends or family are expressing concerns about his intentions, it’s worth paying attention. They may notice patterns that you’re too emotionally invested to see.

6. The relationship feels transactional.
If it seems like his affection or attention only increases when you offer financial support, that’s a problem. A healthy relationship should never feel like a transaction—love should never be about how much you can provide financially.

Recognizing these signs can be difficult, especially if you’re emotionally invested in the relationship. However, acknowledging them early on can protect you from both heartache and financial strain.

A partner who truly loves you will value your heart more than your wallet. Keep an eye out for these red flags, and don’t hesitate to address any concerns you have with him.

True love is built on mutual respect, support, and understanding—not financial transactions.